My Own Domain!

Okay so I finally decided to make my own website! I'm no longer working directly through blogger but I am going to continue to post! My website name is now http://www.subtlyprim.com/  where you can find my old posts (from this year) and my new posts that you can expect to see more from.

I have a couple of ideas up my sleeve and I hope you continue to follow along.

For the last time on Blogger, thanks for reading!

XO - D

My Own Domain!

Okay so I finally decided to make my own website! I'm no longer working directly through blogger but I am going to continue to post! My website name is now http://www.subtlyprim.com/  where you can find my old posts (from this year) and my new posts that you can expect to see more from.

I have a couple of ideas up my sleeve and I hope you continue to follow along.

For the last time on Blogger, thanks for reading!

XO - D

So this is 20

I'm not the typical twenty - something. The bar scene isn't my scene, I couldn't tell you some crazy Spring Break story, and I don't become best friends with my Uber driver every night.

When I was nineteen I saw these tacky Facebook posts that were made into weird meme's that stated when you were in your early twenties you were in a state of confusion, daily. From what you want to do with your life choice of career to whether or not you were going to have Taco Bell for the 5th time this week.

Nobody gave me the heads up that this confusion really did invade every aspect of your everyday life. Do I want to get gas today or tomorrow? Am I going to write this paper now or get some sleep so I can function ~without~ coffee tomorrow? Do I want to change my major to something safe or should I follow my dreams? Where am I going to live after I graduate? Where am I going to live three months from now?

Luckily, I've found out that I'm not alone in this and it's completely normal. But for an analytical, anxiety driven, control freak, I'm not thrilled with this process. You have to mentally prepare yourself to be unprepared. Which I don't know if you've ever done that before, but it might take you a hot second and a handful of failures.

I've decided (with my vast amount of life knowledge a twenty year old could possibly have) that our twenties are God's gift to us in regards to decision making. We get to screw up over and over just by trying to figure out what we want our next step to be. We may feel a bit overwhelmed and underprepared for what's being tossed in our laps but what's cool about that is the ball is in our court. What we choose to do is important. The beauty of it is, if we want to change the outcome because it wasn't what we expected, for the most part, we can. We can enjoy the mess ups and still have a large majority of our lives ahead of us.

So whether you're forming a caffeine addiction or an alcohol addiction, picking up another shift to afford your bills, or spending money you know you don't have on the extra large pizza you know you won't finish. Just know we're all making mistakes and we're all in this together. (I know that HSM reference was not shameful because you watched it last Friday, too.)

This is my open letter to all of us, so, as I raise my metaphorical glass as you raise your very real shot, here's to us for not knowing what the hell we're doing but trying to figure it out. I hope we all end up successful in the end.

XO - D

Forgiving someone that doesn't say "sorry"

I had to forgive someone that never said sorry.

Mind you, forgiving some(ONE) turned into two, then three, and so on. I'm sure there will be more people that come into my life, do some kind of wrong or hurt me in some way and never apologize but honestly, I'm okay with that. I welcome it actually. If there's one thing I've learned from previous friendships and harsh experiences is that you can forgive someone without hearing the apology in the first place. This isn't for them, this is for you, and let me explain three easy reasons why you should start doing the same: 

1. You learn that forgiving someone may take more effort in the beginning, but less hurt following. Nothing can weigh you down if you choose to no longer carry it.

2. After that, you'll feel light. You'll also feel a sense of satisfaction with the person. I've come to find that once I forgive someone without the apology, all of the work is on me. Which believe it or not is a GOOD thing.  Take as much time as you need, find your inner closure, and make sure you smile at the happy memories with this person instead of focusing all of your energy on something so negative. 

3. For lack of a better phrase, it's always best to be the bigger person. This isn't to tell yourself you're the better of the two in the situation, but simply because the outcome and real reward is given to who comes to peace and happiness with the ended bond. Hard feelings are just that, hard. So why would you continue to let things be hard?

Those things are easier said than done. It's easy to be bitter and hold onto grudges. But when was being bitter and a grudge holder something you'd want someone to describe you as? Work towards being a positive light. How do you do this, you ask? Find something causing shadows on your light and figure out how to move it. For example: forgiving someone that hasn't really figured out how to say sorry. 

XO - D